How I learned how to heal myself and how you can learn that too
How I learned how to heal myself and how you can learn that too
Does it feel like something is holding you back? And you wonder what it may be? You have no clue and you just realize that something is off? Something within you gives you that itchy feeling, you are like crying internally and you just can`t figure out what it is?
Then let me give you a tip on how you can solve that. A short article, but an important one. Because inner healing is one of the most profound things we can do. We connect to our inner being, we connect to our living. We open our hearts to ourselves and we let real beauty happen.
So what can you do?
It is called the “Talk to your Inner You” Method
Have you heard that phrase before? “Talk to you Inner Child”? Then this method is similar I believe, but as I never practiced the Inner Child method myself an am not too familiar with it, I call my method the “Talk to your Inner You” ;) And also because our Inner You may have child memories within it, but it is still You, not only in the past, but in the present as well.
It goes the following way:
You lay your hand, for me it is my right hand and sometimes my left hand on top, on your stomach
You can do that indoor, outdoor, laying or walking, doesn’t matter, whatever feels most comfortable
You are two people within one. There is the you that is directing the exercise, and there is you, the person within that is feeling, sentiments, hunches, that is body movement, that is deep within you, that is what deeply drives you
With the method, you are connecting and speaking to that inner you
How do you speak to your Inner You?
This part may be easy or not for you, it may feel a bit tricky at first, to make sure that you are honestly and deeply simply listen and feel what your Inner You is telling you, and not fighting it or analyzing it or “making it do what you want it to do”.
Let me explain what I mean and how the exercise works.
In essence what you do is to ask yourself questions. You have your hand on your stomach and you should feel the movement of your breathe, and you should feel whatever is going on within the area of your body that you are touching. Ideally you are not touching your stomach firmly, but instead touch it lightly, almost a tiny bit attached, but still with the feeling of the momvent within, in that way you can grasp and get more “area” of your body and have more connection to a wider range of sentiments and feelings that your body will share with you in that exercise.
(Note: If that sounds Woo-Woo, maybe, I sometimes think so too, but this method really helps, and so I like to share it anyways :))
So you start to ask yourself questions. I started with simple questions like “Do you like eating rasperries?”, “Do you like the city you are currently living in?”, “Do you like <another city> you are not living in right now?” and so on. And then I would care for the body movements that my body would do. This is important, don’t listen to any voice or any loud noise or whatever, listen and feel and sense the body movement you are doing.
For me that is as simple as it gets:
I smile when I like whatever I ask myself about
I make a disgusted or similar gesture with my mouth and face and when I don’t like what I ask myself about
I do a neutral face, when I don’t know or am unsure about it
I do a forced, unnatural, weird gesture when something is off, but I cannot really describe or understand what is going on
I nod my head when I agree with something
I shake my head, when I disagree with something
In this first layer of getting in touch with your inner workings, your “Inner You”, you can try as many questions as you like to ask. Get a feeling for it, get a sentiment for it. The more you do it, the more you will see what your body tells you.
And let me tell you, you will likely experience surprising answers. There were some quetions I did not dare to ask the first time I experienced the method. I was almost afraid of my own answers. Deep within I kind of knew the answer, but still, I was unpleasant of the truth within that I hold back from myself and did not wanted to be true. I sometimes repeat the questions that trouble me most to see the answer emerging, but the answer mostly stays the same.
And now to the Healing Part
When you come to this stage, where you get a good understanding of what is going on within you, you will realize that there are specific questions that will not only trigger a simple bodily response like the ones I described above, but will trigger more within you. A deeper response, something that is not “ok, I get the response, good, back to normal”, but there is something within. It can feel like an outcry from within, it can feel like a tensity that is more than normal, it can feel like something wants to get out. Whatever it is, these are the moments where you should pay close attention to. These tell you that something is bothering you.
I often cannot tell what exactly it is that is bothering me, but I feel that it is time to go a bit deeper and healing it. What I do then is to let it out. Basically, I allow my body to let the bodily movements that it feels to be expressed. This can take on various, sometimes weird forms, of body movements and if you don’t feel confident yet, please do this first at home and not outdoors.
For me it is breathing very heavily with a body movement that almost feels like throwing up by the body movement itself, or I breathe differently, deeper, with my mouth wide open, or I make breathing sounds that I wasn’t even aware I could make, or I would throw myself back and forth, I would rear up, I would shake my head strongly from one side to the other (especially when doing the work by lying down), I would make erratic head movements and so on. It would feel like shaking up something that is cramped within, or like cleaning what is mumbled within, or like dissolving what is sticked and glued together.
Normally the body calms down after a period of letting it do the movements by itself. I then tend to ask the question again and see if there is more to come and more to express. If yes, I let my body do its work again. For some questions, I repeat as long as the body movement come to an end, for others, I stop in between, as it takes too long and I then repeat the practice whenever it is a good time to move on.
There is no right or wrong, no right timing or else. It is an individual practice and you need to figure out what works best for you. But make sure to not force yourself. Your body tells you when it is enough. So don’t overstretch that exercise, as it is often exhausting and you may feel a bit tired afterwards. Your body is doing its work and even though it may feel of simply asking some questions, it is often more than that, especially if you enter the healing stage for whatever question you asked.
The end
Not really the end, but more the beginning. Try it out. Practice it. And be patient with yourself. Some things take time and it may take you some time to connect with your Inner You. But when you do, you learn so much, you tap into a knowledge that may have been hidden from you through layers, and wants, and wishes, and thoughts and fear. Things that reveal some inner truth that makes life to some extend more complicated, as you will face some truth that you may not like, but at the same time, it makes life easier, as you learn more about what you deeply value, what brings you alive, what brings you to your joy and beauty and deep inner healing.
I hope you liked the article. If it resonated with you and you feel like sharing your story with me and everyone else reading, I would be very delighted :) Or any comment of how the practice works for you is very welcomed.